Many have the same question when come to the question on marriage. Many in their mid-30s will asked “I don’t get it. I have a graduate degree, I make a lot of money, I own a beautiful property, I’ve got a great car, I’m independent and I’m ambitious. Why can’t I get a good man to marry?”
Among all these “enlightened” big-city women, they have figured out everything, it seems, except how to get married. There are more women than ever in their 30s and 40s who seem to have figured out everything from career to real estate and to retirement; everything being mapped out, that is, except one important conventional thing how to get a partner for life. In the past 2 decade, modern society has been telling all the women to come out from their home and chasse their dream, status and accomplishments like men traditionally have. There are two scenario; women who can’t find a steady man at all and women who have a partner or can find men but can’t seem to get them to commit to marriage.
It this also branded in our BaZi Four Pillar of Destiny? Is our Spouse star 配偶星 really that important when come to marriage? There are a few scenarios which include the following.
1. In your BaZi chart, you do not have any Spouse star.
2. In your BaZi chart, you have only one Spouse star and your Spouse star is weak or hidden.
3. In your BaZi chart, you have only one Spouse star but combined and transformed into another type of star.
4. In your BaZi chart, your Spouse stars are being cornered and injured.
5. In your BaZi chart, your Spouse Star go into grave 配偶星入墓.
If you have one or more of the above, will it be definitely unable to find a partner to get married? The answer is No, not definite but it may be harder than others. Remember you still have your Ta Yun and years. If during any Ta Yun or years your Spouse star appear, your Spouse star combine with your daymaster or your Spouse star being reinforced they are very high chances you will find your love. Now, let me select an example. She was born in 1962.
Chart 1. Her BaZi Four Pillars of Destiny chart.
About her chart.
1. She has a Spouse star but being combined and taken away. Does this means unable to get married? Don't make your decision before seeing her Ta Yun.
Chart 2. She was married and have two kids in her Her third Ta Yun. BUT until now she does not have a marriage certificate.
About her third Ta Yun.
1. In this Ta Yun, her Spouse star got reinforcement from the Ta Yun branch. She was married and have two kids.
2. She got a family with two nice kids BUT until now she does not have a marriage certificate. Is this because her Spouse star being combined and taken away?