Some said love is so hard to find, because love itself is so difficult. Or love is hard to find because it is not meant to be found by you. Some misses their only chances to find their husband and others may be too confused to really appreciate love when it walks through the door.
Can our BaZi provide us with some clues? If a given year is particular bad for our marriage or relationship, can we save our marriage with extra efforts and determination? With the right attitude and determination, nothing is impossible. Here is an example of a real person.
Now take a look at her BaZi.
Chart 1. Her BaZi.
1. She has all the ten gods except the one that represent her husband in her BaZi. Her husband stars are missing. They are represented by Wood - "Direct officer" Zheng-guan 正官 (官) and "7 killings" Qi-sha 七杀 (杀).
2. She has to wait until her husband stars appears before she will be able to meet her suitor.
3. The enemy of her spouse stars is strong.
4. Her spouse or marriage palace is not favorable to marriage.
Now let us look at her Ta Yun.
Chart 2. Her Ta Yun.
3rd Ta Yun
1. Her spouse star reveal in her third Ta Yun. Relationship is indicated during this period of time.
2. But the problem is this spouse star combined and became another type of star.
3. Relationship will come and difficult to last.
4. She met her first boyfriend in 1994 when again her spouse star reveals at the year’s stem.
5. In 1995, when strong enemy of the spouse star appeared, their courtship ended.
4th Ta Yun
6. Her spouse star again reveals in her fourth Ta Yun. And this time there was no combination and the star remains intact.
7. In 2004, her spouse star was strong and supported. She met with her husband and they were married within the same year.
8. 2005 was a bad year for their relationship and marriage. They were told about 2005 and asked to put in much more effort if they want to keep their marriage intact. Their marriage did manage to survive 2005 and they are still married until now.
From the above real marriage experience is a proof that we can save our marriage if we want to. The problems normally lies with their personalities and attitudes. The most important is that they are aware of their problems and they are willing to change.