FreeMan
Question Date: 20/7/2025
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I want to ask why new married couples are not allowed to attend another wedding not 100 days before and after their special day.
Thank you
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Peter Yap
Date Answered:
25/7/2025
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This advice comes from Chinese cultural traditions and beliefs in energy Qi clashes
This clashes of Qi, especially around major life events that carry strong emotional and energetic significance.
Here’s the deeper reasoning behind it:
1. “喜冲喜” – Joy Clashing Joy
In Chinese tradition, this is called “喜冲喜” (Xi Chong Xi) — "one joy clashes with another joy". These include
- Major life events like marriage, childbirth, and milestone birthdays are considered “喜事” (joyous events).
- Each joyous event carries its own unique energy or “喜气” (joyous qi).
- When two of these events happen close together — especially within 100 days— it's believed they can clash, leading to misfortune or weakened blessings for one or both parties.
2. Why 100 Days Before & After?
- 100 days is seen as a symbolic window of energetic sensitivity surrounding an important life event.
- This period is believed to be a time when a person’s qi is shifting or fragile, especially for newlyweds.
- Attending another major event within this period might interrupt, dilute, or conflict with your own auspicious energy, possibly causing:
Health issues
Relationship challenges
Bad luck in starting family life
3. Practical Side & Social Respect
It also helps avoid awkward social overlaps, such as:
- Competing celebrations
- Divided guest attention
- Emotional overwhelm (e.g., post-wedding fatigue)
It shows respect to the importance of your own and others’ milestones.
4. Common Exceptions
Close family events may still be attended, especially if:
- BaZi chart compatibility is considered favourable
- Rituals are done to “neutralize” potential clashes (e.g., symbolic gifts, cleansing, blessings)
Some modern couples adjust based on personal belief systems, health, or advice from a BaZi or Feng Shui master.
5. You might want to ask “100 days after still make sense but 100 before seems incorrect.”
In traditional Chinese culture, the idea of not attending other joyous events before your own wedding does not typically extend a full 100 days before. The main concern is the 100 days after your wedding, not before.
What the tradition actually says:
After Marriage?
100 Days After Marriage – Yes, Avoid Other Joyous Events
-This is the core of the "喜冲喜" (joy clashes with joy) belief.
-The couple is still in the process of establishing their marital qi (energy).
-The couple is still in the process of establishing their marital qi (energy).
Before Marriage?
There’s no strict “100 days before” rule in most traditions.
However, if someone recently had a wedding, full moon, or funeral within the past 100 days, you may be advised not to schedule your own wedding too close to it — out of concern for energy overlap or bad timing (especially in close family). Some families may apply a buffer of 30–49 days before the wedding to avoid clashing with other significant events, but 100 days before is not standard.
Newly married couples are traditionally advised not to attend other joyous events like weddings or baby celebrations for 100 days after their own wedding. The “100 days before” rule is not commonly observed, unless advised by a BaZi consultation or family custom.
Warmest Regards,
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FreeMan
Follow-up Date:
30/7/2025
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Master Peter, Thank you so much.
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